perspective
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We all have different ways to give advice to people (to change their behavior or perspective), some tend to critique on a person's weakness, some just shoots the arrow right in other's heart whilst some talk nicely and try to influence them with our opinion. Sometimes, when we don't put ourselves in other people's shoes, as the person giving the advice we tend to lose the whole meaning of trying to advice the person in the first place; which was helping them to improve themselves and not showing off how wise we are or making them think we are "good enough" to even give them advice.
The purpose of me posting this post is actually to remind myself and might as well my readers, I want to improve myself better and you too shall follow my journey to become a better person. Hehe let's do this together!
There are no doubt that there are many ways to advice people but to me personally is by a soft- approach.
Here are two examples of a soft-approach that maybe you can relate on both real-life events or situation.
Situation 1: Prophet Muhammad (pbuh)
A Bedouin entered Madinah, and went directly to the Masjid, so that he may get some money or gold from Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). When he arrived, he saw Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) sitting among his companions (Sahabah). He asked his need. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) gave him something. Bedouin was not content, and moreover he used harsh and inappropriate language against Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). The companions became very angry, and were ready to hurt him. But Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) prevented them from haste.
Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) took the Bedouin to his home, and gave him some more. The Bedouin saw that the residence of Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) wasn't like those of the heads of governments, and there is no luxury in his home.
The Bedouin became content with the share, and thanked Prophet Muhammad (pbuh). At this time, Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) asked him: "You said a harsh word yesterday, which caused anger in my companions. I fear that they will hurt you. Would you be willing to show your appreciation in front of them, so that their anger be resolved, and they don't hurt you?" The Bedouin said: "Sure."
The next day, the Bedouin came to the Masjid. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) addressed his companions: "This man says, he is content with his share, is it true?" The Bedouin said: "That is true." Then he repeated the appreciation that he had shared with Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) and the companions smiled.
Situation 2: Charles Schwab
One day at a noontime, Schwab was walking through one of his steel mills when he came across a group of men smoking directly under a sign that said No Smoking. Instead of pointing out at the sign and "Can't you read?', he chatted with the men in a friendly way and never said a word about the fact that they were smoking under the No Smoking sign.
Finally he handed them some cigars and said with a twinkle in his eye, "I'd appreciate it, boys, if you'd smoke these outside"
That is all he said. Those men knew that he knew that they had broken a rule, and they admired him because he hadn't called them down.
Both of the situation consists of great leaders and the way they advices to their people, not a single harm word and hurtful comments given. So, I guess that conclude's today's post and I know you'd understand what I meant by just reading the examples given.
Peace upon be you, xoxo, Adios!
You must be wondering, why such a random and sudden post, right? I'll explain it all on my next entry! Wait for it.....
You must be wondering, why such a random and sudden post, right? I'll explain it all on my next entry! Wait for it.....
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